Is your busy holiday schedule creating stress instead of joy? A new study suggests that learning to say “no” to some invitations can benefit your emotional wellbeing without putting your relationships at risk.

American Psychological Association researchers conducted experiments with over 2,000 participants to look at why people were hesitant to turn down invitations and to understand the impact on the host when guests declined. When participants were asked to imagine declining a dinner party invitation, most anticipated this would damage their relationships with the host. In fact, three quarters of the participants admitted they accepted invitations to events they didn’t want to attend because they feared it would upset the host. If that’s your concern, you’ll be relieved to hear that probably isn’t the case.

The study found that invited guests consistently overestimated the negative ramifications of declining an invitation. As a result, people tend to accept more invitations than is comfortable and they end up feeling “burnout” over the holidays. Sound familiar?

How difficult would it be for you to accept those invitations that are most meaningful to you and say “no” to the rest?